by Dale Shumaker
4spirit@gmail.com
Each person has an invisible dipper. We can fill a person’s bucket or empty a person’s bucket with our dipper.
By saying and doing things which increase positive emotions, we fill a person's bucket. When we do things that affect a person’s emotions negatively, we empty their bucket.
How Full is Your Bucket emphasizes the value of positive psychology when working with people. The authors, Tom Rath and Donald Clifton, reported a study on Korean prisoners who had the greatest success in psychological warfare. They didn't use physical torture but emotional deprivation systems. It was so effective, soldier prisoners become emotionally lifeless and many just died, due to what they called "Give up-itis."
To totally defeat a person they used this formula...
develop a “snitching” culture, cultivate self criticism in front of peers, break loyalty to leadership and withhold any kind of emotional support.
This negativity created total passive, self-defeating prisoners who had absolutely no spirit or hope.
From this they found if you do just the opposite of this, you create a very motivated workforce that excels exceptionally in all they do.
They coined the phrase “fill a person's bucket”:
regularly tell people what they are doing right,
build each other up,
give to each other in unexpected ways.
Their rule of thumb in keeping a person's bucket full is to give at least two compliments to a person daily… verbally, in notes, emails, or a surprise which shows gratitude for their gifts, talents, or job well done. To maintain a healthy business team, Rath and Clifton recommend the ratio of 5 positive interactions to 1 negative interaction.
For more and research on increasing people productivity note:
http://www.bucketbook.com/
In The Blessing by Gary Smalley and John Trent they pointed out we can actually give people a blessing by positive comments that forecast a person's accomplishments they will make. A blessing actualizes the prescribed behavior in that person's life. They suggested this formula when giving a blessing:
--Meaningful Touch
--Spoken message
--Attach high value to one being blessed
--Picture a Special future for the one being blessed
--Actively commit to support the person being blessed.
For the Biblical origins of blessing note:
http://bible.crosswalk.com/Dictionaries/BakersEvangelicalDictionary/bed.cgi?number=T97
Jesus “Proclaimed” His message of personal freedom. Proclaim means to "declare someone to be something." He touched the blind person and proclaimed his ability to see. This boils down to two power forces in Spirit.
What we tell people is either a blessing or curse. (When we don't bless, we can be unintentionally doing what the Korean's did to our soldiers... kill one's spirit.)
What we say, people become
and even more so when coming from a boss, a leader... someone of a position of power or respect. Then when we touch, Spiritual Power is transferred through us.
If we do a Jesus Thing and take an active positive approach in our business and with all we work with, we can drastically decrease the need for reprimands.
People will live out the blessings we give, become what we tell them. Some times called a "pat on the back" or a "that-a boy," when done strategically and meaningfully will turn the people and culture mindset around. A hand on the shoulder as you express gratitude or give an important direction with an attitude of confidence in them, increases impact of the message.
Touching, speaking blessing (positive I-believe-in-you tone/comment) with value to that person recognized, and efforts appreciated is what Jesus recommended.
Jesus “Proclaimed” people to do great things.
“I tell you the truth… you will do Greater things than these.” (John 14:12)
“I will give you whatever you ask, using my name.” (John 16:17)
This spiritual power went through His followers to do this.
He spoke, touched them… they excelled.
God spoke what happened. Jesus spoke healing. He saw value in people as God's unique creation and in love, wanted everyone to be well, do well!
In His Love, Jesus transferred the Power of God’s Spirit in to them.
Do the same…
in faith, in love …you bless your people.
Begin creating a new atmosphere in your business culture, with your customers, suppliers. The Power of Spirit goes into that person when you do it in love, so they continually know that you appreciate them for who they are. This actualizes their gifts, and enhances ability to perform at higher levels.
Spiritual Power resides in you and waits to be released. When you praise others, encourage in love, Power goes into others.
As God created, you create.
It’s in your hands.
Give a blessing to all you meet and begin changing the world today one person at a time.
What you sow, you will reap and the blessings will boomerang back to you.
What you want, give to others (Luke 6:38)
Make it a practice to keep everyone's bucket full.
“Proclaim” freedom to the captive minds and hearts around you… and you will set them free.
"The Spirit of the Lord is upon me,
for he has appointed me to preach Good News to the poor.
He has sent me to proclaim
that captives will be released,
that the blind will see,
that the downtrodden will be freed from their oppressors,
and that the time of the Lord's favor has come."
Luke 4:18-19
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